A: You'll have to talk to your father and encourage him to begin court proceedings to change parenting time (formerly known as custody) and for him to petition the court to allow you to leave the state with him. I know of no way for you to begin these proceedings on your own.
A: If your daughter is 19, she is legally an adult. You can kick her out of your house, but you would do well to consider the result. Does she have a place to go? With whom will she live? How will this affect your relationship with her long into the future? Sometimes a practical answer is better than a legal answer. The practical answer here is to try family counseling of some sort first.